Why Capable Women Often Feel Powerless

 

There’s a gut-wrenching “power-paradox” millions of women are finding themselves in….

On the one hand, we are feeling called to a much larger life, one of higher creativity, purpose, love, vitality, wellbeing, leadership, influence and impact….

Yet at the same time we also feel powerless or even helpless to create these things we yearn for!

And it’s painful and confusing, because we’re smart, conscious, caring women with more opportunities than any other generation in history–yet it feels like there’s “something more” that we can’t quite reach.

I call the experience of pain, confusion, depression of this gap “unsung song syndrome.”

Women from all walks of life are suffering from it.

Whether they’re coaches or mothers, artists or teachers, authors or high court judges– from producers and performers, to entrepreneurs and so many more.

I had one client who was literally a rocket scientist, who was suffering from the syndrome — this deep sense of “something more,” without clarity as to how to bring it forth.

However the truth is, our struggles come from the fact that we’ve been playing an unwinnable game.

And today, I want to invite you to see your own experience as part of this much larger story — so that you can see and discover the way out and through!

Why is it that in spite of all of the accomplishments and skills that we have, that we still struggle to realize our potential?

For the last 50 years, women have been embracing and mastering a Masculine system of Power.

When you look up the word “power” in the dictionary, you’ll see it defined as “to do, to act, to accomplish, to make things happen,” and even: “to exert force over others!”

The very way we conceive of power in our world and culture at large is a Masculine system sourced from logical, linear, strategic thinking.

This kind of power is valuable and useful for a certain set of things.

For anything that is predictable and controllable, anything you can create with a step-by-step plan, the Masculine power system is definitely the way to go!

We are aligning with A NEW NORTH STAR— Self-Actualization.

We want to become authentically confident and visible; to create loving, growth-oriented relationships’ discover our purpose; feel at home, healthy  & vital in our bodies; to create prosperous careers aligned with our values; manifest our desires for fun, adventure and play; awaken spiritually–in short, we want to fully become the women we were born to be!

If humanity is like a pot filled with kernels of popcorn on the fire, we’re among the first to pop — we’re ‘early poppers’!

So, I INVITE you to see yourself as a pioneer,  you’re a trailblazer, dare I even say a visionary!

Even if you don’t see yourself this way —- you’re feeling the impulse to REACH HIGHER without really having a choice about it.

You’ve had a lot of courage to leave behind the known world, or to not follow traditional paths, and align with your soul’s calling, even in the midst of struggles and challenges:

If you’re struggling with finances, it’s not because you can’t get just get a job — it’s because you’re to seeking to find a way to make a living aligned with your values.

If you’re struggling with relationships,  it’s not because you can’t find “someone: to just procreate with — you’re wanting a much greater possibility of intimacy with a true soulmate, someone who can “meet you on all levels.”

If you’re struggling with health challenges and self-care — paradoxically it may be because your circle of care has expanded beyond yourself and even your family to our larger world, and it’s hard to know how to prioritize meeting all the needs you’re serving.

If you’re struggling to find your purpose — it’s likely because you have so many gifts and options, there are so many things you’re gifted at but

Something historic and unprecedented is happening for millions of women on the planet.

We are leading a new stage of evolution.

You know you’re a part of this historic and world-changing group of women, because deep down you feel an impulse to reach higher.

You don’t just want to survive.

Nor do you want to achieve for achievement’s sake (even though you know you deserve to make a prosperous living and have successful life)!

You sense you have greatness within you and feel a burning yearning to become all you can be.

I call this yearning the impulse to realize your DESTINY.

It’s the DESTINY of an acorn to become an oak tree.

It’s the DESTINY of a rose seed to become a rose.

We don’t simply want to succeed where men have succeeded, nor do we want to go back to traditional female roles of staying home and raising a family. Combining these two into some elusive “work-life balance,” doesn’t cut it for many of us, either.

For the first time in human history, women on masse have the freedom to connect with their deepest yearnings– for creative fulfillment, for love, for authentic self-confidence, for making a meaningful impact.

And while there’s a long way to go with gender equality, and having access to the same social power (that #metoo and #timesup address) there’s something even bigger happening right now for millions of us.

Discover how you can begin to Unlock Feminine Power in your own life!